“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”

Today, many of us may be forced to face abusive verbal assaults on a regular basis. We do ourselves a disservice when we try to dismiss the hurtful words, by saying things like “It’s okay,” or “He doesn’t know what he is saying,” or “I’m too sensitive.” Verbal abuse can be defined as words meant to sting. The words can psychologically hurt an individual. And, more importantly, this abuse is destructive and damaging to your inner spirit. More often than not, the abuser will coerce the victim into believing that the words have real merit. Your faith in yourself can deteriorate. When we are weakened we can come to believe in these words that are hurled at us, wether they are true or not.

If you watch any amount of television, you might be bombarded with themes from popular shows that make “put downs”, ridicule, criticism or other forms of verbal abuse seem normal. We see the people on the screen accepting whatever hurtful words come their way. Although it didn’t necessarily emphasize hurting the people you love, the television series, ‘All in the Family’, may have really opened the door for these verbal attack themes. But, there is ample verbal abuse to hear in more modern shows like ‘The Office’.

Verbal abuse, no matter how innocent or tame it might seem, is destructive, painful and incredibly stressful. Breaking away from this abuse, is about honoring yourself. Breaking away, means that you want more for yourself. It’s about being conscious of your own words too.

As you probably know, recent research shows that stress has significant impact on our bodies ability to heal itself. This means that getting away from verbal abuse can not only help you to heal psychologically, but physically as well. In one study it was discovered that individuals who had trouble expressing their darker feelings and emotions were more likelier to need more time for effective wound healing.

In Numerology there might not be a more effective personal tool than your Maturity Number, when you are dealing with verbal abuse in an intimate relationship. It can be very useful in opening a safe dialogue for older couples, especially those over the age of 35 or 40. When you are feeling upset, you may typically vent your anger at your partner. You might not even know why you feel the way that you do. And if you don’t know why, then your partner might not either.

You might be facing a difficult personal challenge, but not know how to put the need for a certain accomplishment into words. Healthy relationships provide the space and time for discussions about needs, personal goals and dreams. Older couples may have come to realize that they need to find outside help and support. Next time, before you unleash a barrage of words that can be draining or hurtful, try to find a way to discuss, or work with, how you feel instead. You may also want to try to find ways to relieve stress as a couple. Yes, sex can relieve stress, but you might wish to try yoga, art therapy, journaling or meditation. Perhaps, by finding tools to help you relieve stress and honestly discussing how you feel you may be able to nurture your relationship and help it, and you, to grow to a new level.






Perceived stress and cortisol levels predict speed of wound healing in healthy male adults.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15110929

Stress Substantially Slows Human Body's Ability To Heal
http://researchnews.osu.edu/archive/wounheal.htm

Tags: Emotions Numerology Stress Healing

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